What happens when a person is dying?
It is very difficult to predict exactly what will happen. Some people deteriorate rapidly, slip into unconsciousness and die within hours. Some people are awake and alert right to the time of death. Others may be in and out of consciousness over a period of days.
How will I know when they have died?
There are many signs that death has occurred. They include:
- Possible loss of control of bowel and/or bladder
- Stiffness of muscles occur several hours after death
- Relaxation of facial muscles with mouth and eyes slightly open
- Person is unresponsive/not breathing
- No visible pulse or heartbeat
What should I do after they have died?
There is no hurry to do anything immediately. You may wish to spend time with the person who died. This can be a time of sharing and closeness for family, and close friends.
It is helpful to note the time of death and let your nurse know. If it is during the night, this can be left until the morning.
For a death at home you need to inform your GP. If it is during the night, it is all right to leave this until the morning. Your GP will need to complete some forms. There are forms needed if the person wanted to be cremated so let your GP know.
Contact a funeral director to help make the necessary arrangements. You might like to choose a favourite outfit for the person to be dressed in.
There may be a lot of people to tell that the person has died. This can be tiring and stressful. Think about asking family or friends to help you make these calls.
Caring for someone who is dying
The reality of caring for somebody 24 hours per day may be impossible to sustain at home. There may be an unplanned admission to hospital, hospice or long-term care facility. If you are a caregiver, it is important not to feel you have failed or let the dying person down if this happens. You can still provide valuable support and care even if they are not at home. There is no right way or place to die. You and your family will go through it in your own way when the time comes.
Time at the end of life can be precious. Make the most of the time to share special moments, express your feelings, say goodbye and perhaps discuss unresolved issues.
Children need open and honest information from adults when someone they love is dying. It is important they feel included in discussions and in caring for the person. Encourage them to talk about their feelings and ask questions.
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